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WHO AM I ?

I am Dr. Janyne McConnaughey, retired educator, wife, mother and grandmother. I have a story. My story is one I repressed until two years ago when I chose to sit on a therapist's couch. Now healed, I am on a mission!

 

My mission is to clearly articulate both positive and negative effects of early nurturing and experiences on lifelong behavior and thinking patterns while promoting effective educational, spiritual, and therapeutic methods for the healing of inadequate attachment and childhood traumas.

I love California beaches, and the City of Seattle, but live in a 5th wheel with my husband, Scott, at the foot of Pikes Peak. 

Thinking a child who doesn’t enter into play is simply being shy or obstinate prevents us from helping the child utilize this important path for learning. Consider all the learning that takes place during play! A child who cannot play misses out on so much—physically, socially, and intellectually.

Increasingly, the researchers are telling us the key to learning is physical activity (though this is not a new understanding). While we need to allow all children to release natural energy, releasing trauma energy is critical. When “the bear” threatens, the body wants to run. When children can’t run, they internalize the energy. It releases through behaviors usually classified as “acting out.”

“Tell the teachers to start watching for posts,” Jeannie said. “They will understand and buy my book and it will help them understand children like me."

During my healing journey, my dissociated child selves, frozen in time by trauma, provided a window into the mind of a child who has suffered attachment wounds and sexual abuse. My background in early childhood and teacher education allowed me to deeply understand my story from a developmental perspective. My continual pursuit of learning in the field of psychology was a bonus!

Jeannie, the resourceful and resilient child self of author Janyne McConnaughey takes center stage in this companion book to BRAVE: A personal Story of Healing Childhood Trauma. This second psychological memoir offers a literary adventure bringing insights into both child behavior and paths to healing. The author uses parts of her own story, her early-childhood expertise, storytelling ability, and the creative interweaving of her beloved childhood books to provide a lens for viewing behaviors of all children - but especially those who have suffered attachment wounding and trauma.

For a child who has suffered trauma—especially abuse, sexual abuse in particular, the main goal of every single day is to feel safe. This need for safety consumed my energy and caused me to never work up to my academic potential. I had to work twice as hard to do what should have been easy for me. I was very tenacious, but as I look back on my education from kindergarten through graduate school, I can see the effects which I was constantly overcoming. All children are different and it takes detective work to figure out how to help them, but this is what I needed at school.

We often stop ourselves and the children in our lives from doing everything necessary for the body to heal from trauma. We stop our tears, we stop our physical outbursts, we stop our shaking, and we stop our voices from ever telling our truth. We bury our pain so deeply that it affects us for a lifetime.

I realize more and more how trauma informed my teaching methods and choices. No one expected anyone else to be perfect. Stories were received with compassion. The effects of trauma were not judged and everyone understood how desperately we needed to figure out how to help the hurting children in our nation.

Not only was I telling my story to the world, but I was also was putting it in printed form. My fear of being corrected was well founded since my mother used to send my letters back to me with the errors circled. Seriously. Do. Not. Do. That. To. Your. Children. I am sure that in some form, she thought she was helping me to be a better writer.

Jeannie was and is tenacious, but I don’t think there is really anything inside me that is not available to every human being. We are born to live. Life may have beaten this part of us to a pulp, but deep down, that determination to live life is still there (or we wouldn’t be here). Inside each of us is a tenacious inner child. Sometimes the way this child learned to survive is not healthy.

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