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WHO AM I ?

I am Dr. Janyne McConnaughey, retired educator, wife, mother and grandmother. I have a story. My story is one I repressed until two years ago when I chose to sit on a therapist's couch. Now healed, I am on a mission!

 

My mission is to clearly articulate both positive and negative effects of early nurturing and experiences on lifelong behavior and thinking patterns while promoting effective educational, spiritual, and therapeutic methods for the healing of inadequate attachment and childhood traumas.

I love California beaches, and the City of Seattle, but live in a 5th wheel with my husband, Scott, at the foot of Pikes Peak. 

I was prepared to share my insights with the students; but what I received from them exceeded my expectations. I received a profound hope for the future—a future in which communities and churches care deeply about—and understand-- those who are affected by traumatic childhood experiences. Most importantly, a future in which we believe trauma-informed care can help them heal.

Except for the people I have known for many years, my life looks nothing like it did five years ago. I do not live in the same place, do the same work, go to the same church, think about the same things, or have the same passions. Not even the story I share about my life is the same. That is a lot of “unsameness.”

Let us look deeply inside the children in our lives. The “me” I described in the above paragraph was overlooked and lost in all my survival strategies. I am on a treasure hunt to help my granddaughter find and love her true self before the pull of being like everyone else leads her to a life that wasn’t hers to live. She is the only one who can find the self she was created to be, but only an adult can provide the courage she needs to find and accept it. This young generation needs us to be authentic. Many of us have hidden who we are for far too long.

This book defines me as a writer. It is an interweaving narrative that almost defies description. One of my endorsers for Jeannie's BRAVE Childhood stated, "From cover to cover, this book is a masterpiece. Cohesive and expertly crafted." (Susan Jenkins) The day I sent it to my publisher (Cladach Publishing) I felt this was true, but it feels great for someone besides my self to tell me that. All those who have previewed are excited for the launch so I thought my blog readers might like a glimpse!

Then one glorious day, I sat back on the therapy couch and said, “This was never my fault.” In all of my “what if” moments, the idea of my inner struggles not being my fault and healable, NEVER entered my mind. NEVER. Not once.

I used all my skill as an instructional designer when writing BRAVE. I have read books that throw graphic abuse details at you on the first page. Horrible idea. I tell the hesitant, they can read the first 40 pages and be fine. I foreshadow, leave clues in the section headers, and break up the most significant memories. I also weave teaching throughout and include fantasy and humor. I was thinking about my readers on every page.

We can’t fully help others without addressing the deep impact of mental health in our homes, churches, schools, and communities. Simply addressing the spiritual doesn’t address the physical and mental pain caused by trauma. Our generation has been gifted with an understanding of how the body and brain get wired by trauma—and how it can be healed and rewired. We need to remove the stigma surrounding mental illness so people can feel safe in accessing help.

My blanket of brokenness had lots of layers. It had the parts I rejected and the parts I created to please the world. It also had a thousand stitches created for the purpose of making all the pieces seem whole and beautiful.

And finally, the 6th most common reaction: Thank you. You are welcome. Those who are saying thank you are the reason I was willing to be “crazy” BRAVE. I was willing to have some disagree with what I paid a great price to understand. I was willing to accept the silence of those who are unable to openly discuss mental health issues. I was willing to accept that some would distance themselves from me (which has occurred). I made sure I was fully healed and ready to process any reaction. I also made sure what I was saying was in line with the latest research on trauma. I did all my homework and my endorsements are the proof. I did all t...

I am well aware that my book and the truth I tell will be a powerful statement about the effects of childhood trauma. The vulnerability required to help others understand those effects makes me wake in the night and think, "What have I done?" Then I remind myself that I made a choice to speak for the children and adults who have suffered the unimaginable.

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