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WHO AM I ?

I am Dr. Janyne McConnaughey, retired educator, wife, mother and grandmother. I have a story. My story is one I repressed until two years ago when I chose to sit on a therapist's couch. Now healed, I am on a mission!

 

My mission is to clearly articulate both positive and negative effects of early nurturing and experiences on lifelong behavior and thinking patterns while promoting effective educational, spiritual, and therapeutic methods for the healing of inadequate attachment and childhood traumas.

I love California beaches, and the City of Seattle, but live in a 5th wheel with my husband, Scott, at the foot of Pikes Peak. 

When children are traumatized there are always results.This is a well documented and researched truth. The brain scans of those who have been traumatized as small children are different than those children who have been in nurturing safe environments. There is no disputing the fact that these children's brains are being restructured by the trauma caused by our nation's policies. We are not responsible for what happened before they reached us, but we are responsible for what is happening to them now--no matter what we think about how they got here.

During my healing journey, my dissociated child selves, frozen in time by trauma, provided a window into the mind of a child who has suffered attachment wounds and sexual abuse. My background in early childhood and teacher education allowed me to deeply understand my story from a developmental perspective. My continual pursuit of learning in the field of psychology was a bonus!

This book defines me as a writer. It is an interweaving narrative that almost defies description. One of my endorsers for Jeannie's BRAVE Childhood stated, "From cover to cover, this book is a masterpiece. Cohesive and expertly crafted." (Susan Jenkins) The day I sent it to my publisher (Cladach Publishing) I felt this was true, but it feels great for someone besides my self to tell me that. All those who have previewed are excited for the launch so I thought my blog readers might like a glimpse!

Jeannie, the resourceful and resilient child self of author Janyne McConnaughey takes center stage in this companion book to BRAVE: A personal Story of Healing Childhood Trauma. This second psychological memoir offers a literary adventure bringing insights into both child behavior and paths to healing. The author uses parts of her own story, her early-childhood expertise, storytelling ability, and the creative interweaving of her beloved childhood books to provide a lens for viewing behaviors of all children - but especially those who have suffered attachment wounding and trauma.

For a child who has suffered trauma—especially abuse, sexual abuse in particular, the main goal of every single day is to feel safe. This need for safety consumed my energy and caused me to never work up to my academic potential. I had to work twice as hard to do what should have been easy for me. I was very tenacious, but as I look back on my education from kindergarten through graduate school, I can see the effects which I was constantly overcoming. All children are different and it takes detective work to figure out how to help them, but this is what I needed at school.

We often stop ourselves and the children in our lives from doing everything necessary for the body to heal from trauma. We stop our tears, we stop our physical outbursts, we stop our shaking, and we stop our voices from ever telling our truth. We bury our pain so deeply that it affects us for a lifetime.

I realize more and more how trauma informed my teaching methods and choices. No one expected anyone else to be perfect. Stories were received with compassion. The effects of trauma were not judged and everyone understood how desperately we needed to figure out how to help the hurting children in our nation.

Today, I am thankful for so much. My husband who took care of me (no small task), my therapist who believed in me when I couldn’t believe in myself, my children and grandchildren who I miss completely today, and all my truest friends (old and new) who have been such an important part of my healing. I am also thankful for the small child inside of me who chose to be BRAVE and live life despite what happened to her.

What if the trauma outweighs the goodness of God? It is easy to think that is a spiritual problem, but does a child (or adult) who prays for protection but doesn’t receive it have a spiritual problem? We can tell our subconscious self that God is good all the time, but our life experiences often tell another story. Our subconscious feels in danger with or without God.

As I began to heal, I saw the world around me for what I felt like was the first time. I was like a small child discovering the world. There was one moment when I met a roadrunner (my favorite bird) face to face. My cousins had to drag me away! I filled my phone with thousands of pictures—not because I couldn’t enjoy the moment, but because I wanted to save it. This shift was so subtle that I almost missed it.

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