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When Dads are Mothers
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • May 7
  • 3 min

When Dads are Mothers

Re-shared for all the dads who nurture their children! This is my day before Mother’s Day epiphany: My dad was my mother. I blogged earlier about the difficulty of buying cards on Mother’s Day. Father’s Day cards never fit either, but for totally different reasons. They didn’t fit because he had to fill the role of the nurturer! Maybe he broke the mold of father’s roles before it became popular? He didn’t cook (but then I don’t either). He didn’t go shopping with me. He didn’
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Planes, Blocks, Moms, & Toddlers
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • May 23, 2019
  • 4 min

Planes, Blocks, Moms, & Toddlers

We eventually began to talk about the end of the flight, how far we had to go before we slept, who was waiting there, and so forth. She ment
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5 Things I Did to Not be Me
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Apr 2, 2019
  • 5 min

5 Things I Did to Not be Me

Let us look deeply inside the children in our lives. The “me” I described in the above paragraph was overlooked and lost in all my survival
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Wish Lists: The Importance of Asking
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Nov 27, 2018
  • 5 min

Wish Lists: The Importance of Asking

There are lots of us who can’t ask for what we need or want. We have stories that caused this and it affects us in relationships and other h
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Jeannie's BRAVE Childhood
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Nov 13, 2018
  • 2 min

Jeannie's BRAVE Childhood

Jeannie, the resourceful and resilient child self of author Janyne McConnaughey takes center stage in this companion book to BRAVE: A person
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Helping Jeannie Release Trauma
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Jun 1, 2018
  • 5 min

Helping Jeannie Release Trauma

We often stop ourselves and the children in our lives from doing everything necessary for the body to heal from trauma. We stop our tears, w
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A Garden Full of Valentines
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Feb 14, 2018
  • 5 min

A Garden Full of Valentines

I don’t want to dwell there either, but I find the populace in general to be very much lacking in an understanding of the effects of not hav
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Living Life with Faulty Connections
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Jan 16, 2018
  • 3 min

Living Life with Faulty Connections

Listen to the children. Talk to the children. Follow the clues they leave to their faulty connections. Help them be free to live the lives t
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So Much More than Perfect
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Nov 16, 2017
  • 5 min

So Much More than Perfect

Not only was I telling my story to the world, but I was also was putting it in printed form. My fear of being corrected was well founded sin
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Our Tenacious Inner Child
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Aug 24, 2017
  • 6 min

Our Tenacious Inner Child

Jeannie was and is tenacious, but I don’t think there is really anything inside me that is not available to every human being. We are born t
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Generational Patterns and the Ice Cream Truck
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Aug 10, 2017
  • 5 min

Generational Patterns and the Ice Cream Truck

My daughter and I were sitting beside the pool playing a card game. My granddaughter was swimming with a newfound friend about her age. Off
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Feelings: It's Just a Wave
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Aug 2, 2017
  • 5 min

Feelings: It's Just a Wave

Then, I felt it pass over me like a wave. It felt like I was just outside the place where the waves broke and crashed onto the sand. The emo
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My First Tattoo: The Pear of Kindness
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Aug 2, 2017
  • 4 min

My First Tattoo: The Pear of Kindness

I was watching a small girl at the next table when she suddenly lost it. Hysterical. Pulling at her blouse. Inconsolable. It was something a
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How Should We then Dress?
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Jul 30, 2017
  • 7 min

How Should We then Dress?

I lived my life well. I kept the rules that I was told to keep only now realizing that most of those rules have been discarded. Some say tha
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Neediness: An Unintended Consequence of Shame
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Jun 22, 2017
  • 6 min

Neediness: An Unintended Consequence of Shame

I stood in the doorway. I was very small, maybe two. I was sucking on my two middle fingers and watching my mother in the kitchen. I was for
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Jeannie Learns to be Brave
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Jun 14, 2017
  • 3 min

Jeannie Learns to be Brave

From somewhere deep inside of me, I can still feel myself gather up strength in order to be brave for my father. We never talked about that
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Rock-a-Bye Baby: What God Wants for Every Child
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • May 26, 2017
  • 5 min

Rock-a-Bye Baby: What God Wants for Every Child

When I was a little girl, I had a book with Nursery Rhymes. I still have it. I kept it through all my moves. The picture I attached to this
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Did I Damage You?
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • May 18, 2017
  • 3 min

Did I Damage You?

To have our children point out our inadequacies and accept it with grace is probably the hardest, bravest, and most helpful thing we could e
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When Dads are Mothers
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • May 13, 2017
  • 3 min

When Dads are Mothers

This is my day before Mother’s Day epiphany: My dad was my mother. I blogged earlier about the difficulty of buying cards on Mother’s Day. Father’s Day cards never fit either, but for totally different reasons. They didn’t fit because he had to fill the role of the nurturer! Maybe he broke the mold of father’s roles before it became popular? He didn’t cook (but then I don’t either). He didn’t go shopping with me. He didn’t do lots of traditional mother things, but I do unders
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Why April Licked Her Baby
Janyne McConnaughey, PhD
  • Apr 15, 2017
  • 2 min

Why April Licked Her Baby

While watching April, the giraffe, give birth this morning, I thought it was a perfect illustration of new birth and bonding. It was a bit unsettling to watch the baby giraffe fall to the ground and lie there with no obvious movement. The birth of a human is a bit traumatizing but we don’t fall to the ground unless something goes wrong. Then April began to lick her new baby. I am not proposing we human mothers should start licking our babies, but there is much to be said for
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